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In past years, despite the faithful nagging of my wife, despite my own distaste for crowds, despite the promises I had made myself in prior years, I have always left holiday shopping to the last minute.
It’s not like I have a lot to do. Both our extended families, having found that the prospect of purchasing for everyone fostered a sentiment of bitterness about giving (which ran rather contrary to the whole spirit of the season), have opted — and I daresay, after a good amount of urging on my part — to adopt a gift exchange approach. Each person draws or is assigned a single name and purchases a $50 gift for that single person. It has restored the proper atmosphere of the holidays in our homes, has eliminated begrudging gift-buying, has reduced the pure commercialism of the season, and has eradicated the nauseating surplus of impractical “junk” we don’t need.
My wife takes care of purchasing all the gifts for the kids, which she usually has finished by May.
Sandra and I do not purchase individual gifts for each other but instead have a tradition of taking each other away for a weekend in January or February. We don’t get away together very often, so it really is the most meaningful gift we can give each other.
As a result of these traditions, I am only responsible for two gifts and, frankly, I rarely even have to do that, as Sandra has an endearing penchant for returning home from a mid-October shopping trip with a grin on her face and a declaration that she found a gift for So-and-So. “I thought I was purchasing for So-and-So this year,” I’ll comment quizzically. “You are!” she replies proudly.
That usually leaves me nothing but Sandra’s stocking to take care of, and store cameras typically capture me dashing in frantically on December 23rd or 24th, an expression of frustration on my face. So much for holiday cheer.
This year, I learned my lesson, and finished all of my holiday shopping in October.
I did, however, go a day earlier — today, December 22nd — and I did adopt a few practices which very legitimately removed all stress from the experience. Having tested these practices, I want to pass the knowledge on.
So, today, I’m stepping away from my “Today, I am grateful for…” recipe in favour of something a little different.
Behold, I give you the 11 Tips for Surviving Last-Minute Holiday Shopping. Why 11, you ask? Read on.
Tip 1. Don’t leave holiday shopping to the last minute.
I anticipate you will feel a little cheated by that one, which is why I will produce 10 more. That said, if you remain faithful to Tip 1, you can ignore the rest. Happy Holidays and I hope you’ll come back for tomorrow’s post: Little Graces.
Still here? Figured as much. Let’s continue.
Tip 2. Estimate how much time you will need to do everything you need to do, and then double it. I find myself always getting angry at the delays. I’m screaming at drivers who don’t accelerate as soon as the light turns green, I’m tapping my foot impatiently at the person ahead of me in line who is confirming the price everything against the flyer, etc. If you block off ample time and don’t waste it with procrastination, you won’t feel rushed.
Tip 3. Patronize local, independent businesses. They need your business more than the conglomerates, and because everyone else is at Walmart and the like, the independent businesses aren’t as busy. Less busy = less stress.
Tip 4. Try to go to stores that don’t have shopping carts. It seems trivial but, really, the chaos of holiday shopping can bring out the worst in people, and those shopping carts can quickly turn into vehicular weapons. Steer clear of those and you can avoid frustration at shopping cart traffic jams and avoid injury too.
Tip 5. “Brain shop” before you shop. Try not to take the approach of wandering around a store trying to find stuff. If you’re leaving shopping to the last minute, spend your time in traffic on your commute home from work in the days leading up to the holidays by thinking about what you are going to purchase. Then, see if you can find out online who has those items. It will make battling store traffic a lot easier and faster if you know exactly what you’re getting at the store and can just go in and get it.
Tip 6. Have alternatives. Don’t rely on an item being at the store or at the price you expected it to be. If you show up and it is not there, or three times as expensive, you won’t feel so much frustration or anger if you have a “back-up.”
Tip 7. If you’re able, walk to the stores, or take the bus or, if you drive, park far away from the store entrance. A good portion of my last-minute shopping stress comes from fighting other drivers for those parking spots near the store entrance. Today, I parked way at the back of the parking lot and walked. I enjoyed the walk, and never had to fight anyone for the parking spot.
Tip 8. Smile, and be helpful. I kept a smile on my face throughout all of my shopping today. The effect was two-fold: (a) studies have shown that the very act of smiling makes the person smiling feel happier (it works); (b) when you smile at everyone, you find that a good number of them smile back. Everyone wins. Being helpful takes it a step further. If you see someone struggling with taking shopping bags to their car, or someone who doesn’t know where something is, offer to help. That’s what the holidays are all about, right?
Tip 9. If possible, shop without children. I know. This falls into the same category as, “and while you’re at it, I’d like a pony.” No matter how bad you expect it to be, shopping with children right before Christmas WILL ALWAYS BE WORSE THAN YOU EXPECT IT TO BE. If you have generous friends, family, or an available babysitter, don’t guilt yourself out of asking for their help. Maybe they’re too busy to provide their help, but it can’t hurt to ask. Don’t forget to give a small token of thanks for their help: bring back a coffee, or offer to make them dinner, etc.
Tip 10. Be charitable. Organizations like The Salvation Army always have donation kettles at places where people shop. If you can spare a dollar, two, five, ten, twenty, it finishes your shopping trip nicely to deposit it in the kettle and know that someone else’s holiday will be a little happier because of you.
One last thing: Shopping doesn’t have to be done in stores. Make a gift for someone, give something you already have. At my youngest’s last birthday, my niece very proudly gave him one of her favourite stuffed animals. Also I, for one, would much prefer to open a card that informs me that someone else in need has benefitted from the giving, than to unwrap baubles. Donate to a local charity and let the person know that the gift you gave them is that someone else has been made happier, or safer, or healthier. Will some of those recipients think you’ve “ripped them off?” Yes, some will. Tough luck for them. Like I tell my kids: that warm feeling you get in your belly when you do something good or right is better than any reward in the world; and it is the very essence of this holiday season.